Category Archives: goals

What’s On Your List?

I have a shopping list on the side of my fridge. It helps me remember what to buy when I go to the grocery store.

I have a list of errands to run. I use it to create my route, saving as much gas and time as I can, and still get everything done.

When I was on a dating site, they have you create a list of what you’re looking for in a partner: fit and trim, non-smoker, age range, geographical area, successful, likes movies and travel, that list can go on and on.

A friend of mine gave me a gratitude journal to write down the things I was grateful for each day. Besides the obvious, I wrote things like a summer rain storm, chai latte in the morning, the ceramic kitty that sits on my desk at work. These lists are very important, they remind us to keep a proper, and positive perspective.

As a writer, I always keep lists of unique names, character traits, places, and dialogue I can incorporate into my stories.

Lists are more than just a collection of words. They can be liberating. They can provide direction and clarity, organization and insight. What’s important? What’s not?

What’s on your list?

Live for the Beauty of Your Own Reality

Don’t live your life according to someone else’s reality. Their goals, expectations, and judgments are not the same as yours. Don’t make decisions based on misinformed perceptions.

What did you want to be when you grew up? I’m not talking about career, I’m talking about life in general. What did you think your future would look like?

What do you see happening for yourself five or ten years from now? Is this the path you chose for yourself? Or one someone else chose for you?

Their reality is not the same as yours. Remember that. Define YOUR reality, and live in the beauty and truth of that. Then, and only then, will you find true happiness, joy, and success.

It’s never too late to have a Happily Ever After.


All Is Well

A lot of times I think about things I want to do, and I place a condition on them. I’ll do X when Y happens. And then I realize, Y may or may not happen, and I can do X now. Whatever X is.

Don’t set limitations on your life. If you are given inspiration to do something, then just do it.

So many people say, “the time isn’t right. I have to wait until my bills are paid off, or I have a better job, or the kids are in school, or out of school.” But the truth is, you can do whatever it is right now. The only one putting conditions on your actions is you.

Every time I do that, then stop and realize I don’t need to wait for one thing to happen before I can do another, I set out to do what my initial idea was. And you know what? When you do it, everything else falls into place.

We don’t have to have all our ducks in a row to accomplish a goal, or to take the next step in a relationship, to start a family, to apply for a new job, or move to a new home. There are no conditions in life. We have Free Will. And we need to remember that.

So whatever it is you’ve been thinking about doing, but were putting off ‘for the right time‘, just go do it!

You’ll be amazed at how wonderful life is when you live it.

Anything Is Possible

Anything is possible.

It’s a fun statement full of hope and magic. Although some people would rather live by what’s probable than what’s possible. Part of this comes from fear of change. Reaching for the ‘possible’ can mean reaching outside of your comfort zone. It can mean taking a risk, testing your faith, capabilities, or knowledge. It is often much easier to live in a world of what we know and are comfortable with.

That darn comfort zone! It’s our worst enemy.

Is there something you want but felt it was out of your reach? Maybe you don’t feel qualified for a particular job or task? Or like some unfortunate souls, feel you’re not worthy? Who establishes your worth? Who establishes your qualifications? Who says you do or don’t need that enough to warrant your having it?

You do!

Your life isn’t up to anyone else, it’s up to you. If you’ve given the control of your life away to someone else, then it is fully in your power and right to take that control back. It’s your life, not theirs. What is possible in your mind, that you haven’t tackled, tried, or reached for yet?

It’s time. Take the first step today to do the possible.

How to Fly

“How does one become a butterfly? You must want to fly so much that you are willing to give up being a caterpillar.” ~ Trina Paulus


If you stop and think about it, we are all caterpillars, aspiring to something greater. But at what point do we become brave enough, or impassioned enough to leave the old behind and take flight? To let go?

Fear is the greatest hindrance in our lives. It’s not so much that we will fail, it’s the fear of failure.

Experience teaches us that falling down may hurt, and so we are careful to avoid falling down. And yet, there are times when we fall. It doesn’t kill us, it doesn’t render us incapable of walking ever again. It might bruise or scrape our knees, but we get back up and go again. That’s our wings-the power within to get back up and go again, to fly!


What is holding you back in your life that you need to let go of?

To what great adventure will you fly to when you spread your wings?

Think of the endless possibilities that lie ahead for you. Age, circumstances, finances mean nothing. This is your time. Leave the cocoon and fly!

The only one standing in your way is you.

Chocolates, anyone?

“Life is like a box of chocolates.” We are all familiar with this great line from the movie FORREST GUMP, which reminds us of the uncertainties we all face.

Each day brings new wonders, challenges, successes and failures. While we cannot foresee what the day will bring, there are ways for us to maintain our balance in life:

  • Meditation

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    a morning rainbow
  • Reminding ourselves  ‘not to sweat the little stuff, and it’s all little stuff’
  • Finding the goo in each event
  • Laughing
  • Smiling
  • Counting our blessings and being thankful
  • Journaling
  • Exercising, swimming, yoga
  • Living a healthy lifestyle
  • Helping others, being of service
  • Telling someone you love them
  • Going for walks or bike rides, taking in the fresh air and comforting elements of nature
  • Listening to music

What’s your pressure point? And what do you do to relieve it?


Flour, sugar, and eggs have the potential to be a cake. The finished product depends on my creativity and willingness to experiment. I measure, mix, and bake. I follow through on each step to complete my creation.

All the ingredients I need for a fulfilling life are available to me. I find wisdom, love, imagination, and passion enable me to create the life I want.

I am grateful for the life I live and for the power to create my life anew each day from divine potential, my recipe for success.stack-of-books-1001655_960_720

3 Weight Loss Secrets

I have a small frame and have been petite my whole life, until I hit menopause and found myself in an unhappy relationship. The pounds started packing on everywhere!

Breaking away was hard, but being alone and happy was far better than being with the wrong person and miserable.

Yet, there I was in mid-life – single, alone and my clothes were almost three sizes larger than they had ever been before.

What to do? I could keep buying larger sized clothing, but when I caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror one day I was instantly depressed. This wasn’t me. I didn’t feel comfortable being lumpy and pudgy and saggy. I didn’t sleep well and I was facing depression. I didn’t care what other people thought of me, but I did care what I thought of me. And I didn’t feel good about myself in this condition.

Four months ago I started a new regimen that turned my life around. And today I am back to my petite shape, back to my original clothing size – and feeling fantastic about myself again. I am happy! Happiness is certainly not based just on body image and size, it’s a perfect balance of mental, spiritual and physical. When any one gets completely out of alignment, it can throw everything off. weight_loss

I did not use hypnosis, fad diets, pills or hormone therapy, here’s what I did:

I changed my eating habits.

  1. Sunday through Friday I eat strictly healthy, low-fat foods. Lots of salads, fruits, vegetables and lean meats (chicken and fish). I don’t eat bacon, cheese, sweets, breads, white potatoes, pasta, fast foods, fried foods or junk foods. Keep the fat-content and calories down, plenty of protein.
  2. Saturday is my FREE DAY. All those things I can’t have the rest of the week, I CAN have on Saturday. If someone brings homemade cookies to work, I put one in a baggy and save it for Saturday. Buy me chocolates for Valentine’s Day? I’ll eat them on Saturday. But even then, I ration it, not too much.  Your FREE day is up to you. Pick one day and stick to it.
  3. I joined a gym and rotate my workouts so I have a  variety, and am hitting all areas of my body. To get to my desired weight, I went every day after work and on weekends averaging 6 days a week. Now that I’m where I want to be, I can trim that back to 4-5 days a week to maintain.
  4. Portion control. “Don’t eat for the body you have, eat for the body you want.” I cut everything in half. Instead of eating a whole protein bar before the gym, I ate half of one. The same with every meal. This caused the quickest weight drop of all. I didn’t think I was eating very much to start, but apparently, I was. Cut it in half!   Having the person you share meals with supporting you, and eating the same way you do, and working out as much as you do, can make all the difference in the world. Why not be healthy together?

It’s All About the Lines

The finish line is always the goal. It can sometimes be the line that separates you from the people you work with.

Sometimes we need boundaries between us and the rest of the world.finish-line

Do you ever lay down the law? Draw the line in the sand and warn others against crossing it? Be careful, boundaries don’t necessarily keep other people out, they can also fence you in.

You can waste your life drawing lines, or you can live your life crossing them. Get comfortable coloring outside the lines.

If you’re willing to take the chance, the view from the other side of that line can be pretty spectacular! What might you be missing out on?


Jamie Lee Curtis made a great statement once, “Everything you want in the world is just right outside your comfort zone – every single thing you could possibly want!”

It’s true that we often tend to see the things we want as just beyond our grasp.thQC63NIK8

Stepping outside of our comfort zone is not only uncomfortable, it’s scary. What if we fall or fail or lose our way?

But if we don’t stretch, if we don’t cross that line into the vast unknown, we’ll never experience all the amazing gifts that are waiting for us. We won’t realize our potential and achieve our greatness.

Don’t lock yourself into thinking ‘this is all there is’ or ‘I can’t do that’. You can do anything you set your mind to. At least give it a try!

Expand your box of comfort an inch at a time, and in a very short while, you’ll be amazed at what you’ve accomplished and how far you can go. It’s all about baby steps.

Take the leap, make the push, slide into home base! Get uncomfortable and experience the rush!